Sage, I relate deeply to all you've written. Shame also runs deeply in my family but in my case it was more on my father's side. I love how you say that shame is an "inherited strategy crafted to prevent rupture in relationships." Yes, remain loyal to it because subconsciously we want to belong to the family system. I relate also to so many other things you mention... Most of us are unaware of the endless layers of entanglements we carry. I can only saw from first hand experience that life gets so much easier once we start addressing them. Hellinger called that "purification". For me, it's about getting rid of everything that is not truly ours so that our essence can shine through.
Thank you for your words Natalia. Yes, the “work” is complex - specially with what regards inherited “missions” or the “invisible loyalties”. It often feels like a basket of tangled colorful yarns that an old aunt would have left in the attic…. Just try to release one knot and another forms.... Love, Sage
Sage, I relate deeply to all you've written. Shame also runs deeply in my family but in my case it was more on my father's side. I love how you say that shame is an "inherited strategy crafted to prevent rupture in relationships." Yes, remain loyal to it because subconsciously we want to belong to the family system. I relate also to so many other things you mention... Most of us are unaware of the endless layers of entanglements we carry. I can only saw from first hand experience that life gets so much easier once we start addressing them. Hellinger called that "purification". For me, it's about getting rid of everything that is not truly ours so that our essence can shine through.
Thank you for your words Natalia. Yes, the “work” is complex - specially with what regards inherited “missions” or the “invisible loyalties”. It often feels like a basket of tangled colorful yarns that an old aunt would have left in the attic…. Just try to release one knot and another forms.... Love, Sage